Sometimes, when people find out I have ADHD, they look at me like I have two heads.
I do not, in fact, have two heads, nor do any of my shiny, squirrel noticing cohort. We have, in fact, the same number of heads as an identical sized control group.
And okay, my title is misleading, because what I’m actually listing here is five of the thousands of things that people with ADHD have in common … with everyone else.
If you think that’s boring, please, go find a post about something more exciting. I’d suggest photos of events that you just won’t believe are real or perhaps 7 foods that you should never eat while standing on your head.
This post is about people with ADHD. And for starters, the main thing we have in common with the rest of the population is in the title.
That’s right, we’re people. If you don’t have ADHD, that’s too bad, we’re still one of you. Get over it.
We have feelings. Yes we do. Oh, you knew that? Well of course you did, because we often show them more than others do. It’s not that we’re more easily hurt, it’s that we are easier targets for hurting.
And the frequency with which we are hurt because of that wears us down. Especially when we are younger. And it’s even more likely to happen if we are undiagnosed. We will be centered out and ostracized for being different, and our very name will become a label of shame.
“Ha, hey look. It’s Kelly!” You think I didn’t hear that?
We have a sense of style. Yes, it’s our style. Yes, it can be unique, even among our own we can stand out. But everyone has a sense of style, and bad taste is not actually bad, it just isn’t the same taste as those who believe they have a superior sense of style.
And guess what, there are plenty of people who are considered to have no sense of style, but if you asked them what they liked they’d have an answer.
And that, is all that a sense of style is. I just happen to like the stuff I wear, the things I buy, the colours I choose for walls and carpets and cars. Okay, I hate the colour of my truck, but I bought it used and didn’t have a choice.
Fourth now …
Dreams. We have dreams. I’m not talking about imaginary visions that occur when we’re asleep. In truth I rarely dream when I’m asleep. Almost never. I think my mind is too busy to be bothered with that.
But I have dreams. I have hopes and plans and schemes and yes, dammit, I have dreams.
And lately, some of my dreams have been coming true. I’ve been traveling. And I’ve gotten to be a writer which was something I always dreamed about but never thought would happen for the first forty years of my life. And there are more things coming. I’m currently involved in a plan to see if it might be possible for the greatest dream I’ve ever had to come true.
Lastly, none of those dreams could have come true, not one of them could even have been attempted without the thing that we have that everyone else has. There are many names for it, I often call it heart, but to avoid confusion with the physical thing of the same name of which we all also have one of, I’m going to call it human spirit.
We all have a power inside of ourselves that we are often afraid to release, afraid to give free rein to, and that power, that human spirit is our gift. We were given it when we were born and though we never lose it, we can take it to the grave unused if we never let it out to play.
So whether you have ADHD or not, the two take-aways from this post are, let your spirit help you live life to the fullest, and remember that people with ADHD are people first. And that last thing needs to be remembered whether you have ADHD or not.
We’re not two different groups of people, we’re one people with billions of little differences that make us each unique.